Sunday, February 22, 2015

Advice for Moms by Jamie King

When I first became a mom my mother told me to be opened to other peoples advice and to take what works for me. I have found that to be so true. You just never know when some of that advice is the missing piece to your puzzle. I love to get advise from my mommy friends especially on what I am to expect. I recently read some a piece with Actress/ Model Jamie King on The New Potato about being a new mom. I wanted to share this with you because it is refreshing to hear advice on how to take care of the ourself, the mom. Yes, our kids are our priority, but sometimes to be a better mom you have to take a time out for mommy. That is something I am trying to do and need to be reminded of. 

Jaime King, photographed at Tavern in Los Angeles, CA by Danielle Kosann. Jaime wears aLeon Max coat, vintage top, Frame Denim jeans, and Tory Burch shoes

Jamie King advice from The New Potato:

      What’s your number one piece of advice to new moms? 
Be gentle with yourself. There is so much Mommy judging, and so many rules and regulations. “You have to breastfeed,” or “If you formula feed you’re bad.” “You have to do this, you have to do that…” There are so many labels now of what you should or shouldn’t do and I think that is really harmful to mothers. Birthing a child and caring for a child is already difficult in itself. It’s hard enough just being a person in this world, and then all of the sudden, you’re responsible for another person. Women think that what they’re going through on the inside isn’t supposed to exist anymore, but that’s just not true. We’re just women, doing the best that we can with what we know and what we have. I find that the most important thing for mothers is that they find other women that are very supportive of them. And it doesn’t have to be other mothers. Don’t judge yourself if you aren’t taking your kid to a baby class every day, and don’t judge yourself if you have a bunch of best friends who aren’t parents. Just find the people that love and support you so that you can support yourself and your child. And take everything day by day. It’s really hard to think that every day has to be exactly the same – like everything has to be regimented. There has to be structure and flexibility at the same time. And for God’s sake, don’t go on chats on the internet and compare your parenting skills to someone else. Our lives are all so different from each other, and all that matters is that you’re loving and caring for your child. That’s all that they care about, really.

What has been your most memorable trip and why?  
I would say one of my best trips ever, recently, was 4th of July in Watch Hill with Taylor [Swift] at her house. All of our friends were there; it was just this wonderful group of people. My son was there. It was one of those experiences where you can really sleep. You can really relax. You really feel that you’re getting nourishment from the food that you’re eating. You really feel like you’re connecting with people on a very deep level. You’re having fun, you’re staying up late but you don’t feel hungover because you’re not partying. It was just a nurturing, joyful, happy environment with people that were happy to be there. It was like this kismet of the right alchemy of people. Some people had never met before, but there was a really great connection. There was just something magical about it. It’s interesting because there’s BC and AC (before child and after child) and that was my first big trip with him, AC. So I’m very fond of it.

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